Try Radical Unconditional Love

🌟Weekly Inspiration🌟

As parents, we all give a lot of lip service to the idea that we love our children (and partners) unconditionally.

Unconditional love = love offered freely and with no strings attached.

In unconditional love, you love simply and expect nothing from that person in return. In daily practice, that means that we love our children whether or not they earn good grades, have a great attitude at home all the time, score a goal in the game, agree with us, or do their chores.

Parents, consciously and unconsciously, often withhold love/affection/praise/attention from children when they do not perform or behave in a way that pleases their parents. Even loving parents do this often! It is much easier to unconditionally love your child when they meet your expectations, try to please you, cooperate, and shine brightly. When they are the most unlovable, they actually need the most love. 

In a quiet moment, reflect upon whether you were loved unconditionally as a child or if there were requirements to earn your parents’ love. Just note it and how it might impact your style with your child (children). How would it feel for your child, if they were just accepted and loved without expectation?  I’m not suggesting that you release all expectations of them, yet I am suggesting that they shouldn’t be loved only when they meet them.

More unconditional love might free them up to be more authentically aligned with themselves and their own goals—which is really the whole point, for them to feel good about who they are becoming. Be gentle with yourself as you consider and try ✨.

Love,
Leah

P.S. I will be practicing at home too!

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