Learn-It-All Culture vs. Know-It-All Culture

🌟Weekly Inspiration🌟

Most of us can feel the difference between someone who thinks they know it all versus someone who desires to learn it all. Know-it-all culture can be problematic for many reasons. Coaches, teachers, leaders, ministers, and parents who foster a Learn-It-All culture have to be courageous. There is an inherent humility when one doesn’t believe that they have all the answers…there is a vulnerability when one is open to feedback and nuance…and one has to have faith when living with a growth mindset. Know-It-All culture is sexier and more exciting, yet Learn-It-All culture has some real staying power 🌟.

A Learn-It-All Culture at home can look like:

-asking many questions
-normalizing not having all the answers
-being open, considering other vantage points
-noticing that your children teach you
-focusing on the learning after mistakes
-modeling humility
-quiet confidence
-suggesting the idea that we are all works in progress
-repair after a rupture
-normalizing asking for help
-noticing bravery when your child admits they don’t know what to do
-tolerating disagreement, even encouraging disagreement and free-thinking

Ask Yourself:

Am I a Know-It-All?  Where does this show up in my life?
Do I feel like I Know-It-All as a parent?  If not, why?
Do I have a growth or fixed mindset?  (Be honest with yourself!)
Do I value obedience over free thinking?
Am I able to ask for help?  Why or why not?
What about our family culture works well?
Any small shifts that I’d like to make?

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